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Anyanwu Chisom's avatar

Ouuuu! This is a ten,ten ten girl.

First of all, I love how you see yourself, it is so beautiful and inspiring to see how much worth you attach to yourself and how ready you are willing to stand up for yourself even if that's not what the world wants or expects.

Because most of the time, this is what happens to women but just because they are too scared of whatever will happen, the stick to that - just another relationship person and nothing more.

When truth is, every human male or female is so much more than status, whether it's a relationship, career or educational status. We are more than just a string of qualifications or roles.

We are human - beautifully complex with so much to give and when we love ourselves enough to not let our person be capped or put into a box, that might just be the very beginning of a fulfilling, satisfying life.

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Oyin Osikoya's avatar

This is so beautifully written and absolutely true. I refuse to be defined by anything or anyone that doesn’t truly reflect who I am.

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Plumpy MacLean's avatar

Hi Oyin. Here from TikTok. Beautiful article. How lucky you are to have fallen in love, and how lucky you are to have realized that you are your first love✨

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Oyin Osikoya's avatar

Thank you so much🥹🤍

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Cincade's avatar

Good piece. It was 👌🏾

Your relationship with yourself is more important.

“I am the love I give, not the love I was given.

I am all the things I give, not what anyone decides to give back.

I am the words I speak, not the words I was spoken to.”

- Lana Blakey.

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Oyin Osikoya's avatar

Thank you so much!🤍

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Usman Halimat's avatar

I don't know how you do it but you just seem to touch the part people don't seem to talk about. I love you ❤️

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Oyin Osikoya's avatar

Thank you so much queen🥹 Love you too🤍!

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Jose Braimah's avatar

Hit every nail spot on.. this is what you owe yourself. I’m extremely proud of you!

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Civirter Esther Yangeadoo's avatar

Yes Girl. This is something really relatable.

I'm sat for what you have to offer. Nice connecting with you😌💗

This is really lovely.

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Oyin Osikoya's avatar

Thank you so much🙏🏾💛

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Edima-Blossom's avatar

this is so beautiful Oyin and yes, you are wayyy more than somebody's girlfriend.

i read through it and only realized at the end that it was you! 😊

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Oyin Osikoya's avatar

Thank you so much!🥺

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Delight.'s avatar

Very true,well done!

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Oyin Osikoya's avatar

Thank you so much🤍

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Layefa Anderson's avatar

You’re gifted Oyin. I love every word you penned down in this great piece.

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nyanbiohl's avatar

Yes! Yes! Yes! Love is a wonderful thing but it is unfortunate how we’ve been trained to make ourselves smaller when it comes to us.

I just left a relationship with a man who I thought was going to marry. I’d shrunken myself down to a needle point in the universe and I felt I would evaporate after the breakup. Luckily, on the other side of things, I’m seeing how love can build you up. Expand you, learning from my friends and family after all of this.

You’ve painted your words so beautifully. This is a feeling I’ve been having for the past few days. My life will be about me, even if I decide to link myself to someone again in the future. I MUST remember and feed me! Keep writing sister <3

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Glory's Corner's avatar

Solid 👏

I'm really glad you discovered this! And it's even amazing that you were vulnerable enough to share. (Ps I'm a fan from YT) It's amazing to see you here as well!

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Chidera Susan's avatar

This is the reason after my breakup, I said I won't do relationship for a while. One thing is I love love, I love the companionship, the trust everything, it is beautiful but I'm working on choosing ME more. As somebody that my self-esteem is on an average level, I need to choose ME more because it is all that matters anyway. So if you won't be posting him anymore, go girl you are doing all right because you have a life outside a man!!! I'm not condemning love because as a preacher of love, I can never do such a thing!! But as females, we should strive to have a life outside of Men because at the end of the day, What is the reason for your being??

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Tariere Nemine's avatar

Such a beautiful piece✨. I subconsciously have let my past relationships eat me up, forgetting I am the love of my life❤️

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Quel🧚‍♀️❤️'s avatar

Heyy Oyinn … I’ve been a fan on TikTok for the longest of time… I once saw a post that if your like is worth living … it is worth writing and documenting and I immediately thought of you…. You inspired me … you inspire me ❤️

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Oluwanifemi's avatar

This is worth reading dear Oyin, no lies, we shouldn't be defined by the roles we play in people's life but by who we really are.

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